Fail again. Fail better.

November 29, 2011 | By | 10 Replies More
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Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better – Samuel Beckett

Having a blog with no goal but sharing my life makes tempting to write lots of good things about me.
But if you know me you know I’ve my shares of humanity so this week I decided to talk about failures…

Failing at something is wrongly considered a shame, something to hide, something to avoid and something to never talk about.
But if we can put our ego out of the way we can see that it’s a pity because failing at something is the second worst thing that can happen – after succeeding indeed – and also a great indication that one’s striving to achieve something out of the comfort zone.
As I didn’t find any better learning method than experiencing reality, I can only accept failures and make treasure of them.

1998 - happy for the new motocross bike

1998 - happy for the new motocross bike

Here are some failures along the way.
Sometimes I attempted things I’m not good at, like my motocross career during my teenagers years.
Despite lots of passion for the sport, time and money spent to practice every Sundays and prepare the motorbike during the weeks, I never had enough balls to jump high and through myself in the battle during the races… so I ended up feeling a failure and eventually stop once I found the first girlfriend.

It took years for me to realize that being moved by genuine passion was more important then the outcome.
It was a failure with no regrets, but when I started kite surfing few years ago, a sport that has some “extreme” characteristics similar to motocross, I told myself “you don’t need to be good at this” and it became a much more enjoyable experience playing with water, wind, waves & pain.

And talking about motorbikes, I failed lots of times in respecting the laws.

Big fine

Big fine on the way

Just fined

Just fined

I failed many times in relationships, doing a plethora of mistakes from being not honest to being too honest.
Failed thousands of approaches saying the wrongest thing.

Even failed in bed, once with a girl I was waiting since 2 years (!) and that never gave me a second chance. Oh, life!


Even failed the challenge to stop drinking alcohol for a month.

Estonian beerFirst exception was a prosecco to celebrate Berlusconi’s resignations, the 12th of November, that for me more than a political reaction was the celebration of a change, hoping that the Italians will do the best out of it.

Second and much more severe exception was this weekend as Gianluca and me went to Tallinn for the Salsa Festival and decided to add a new rule to our challenge, declaring that doesn’t apply in Estonia. (I’ll write more about both 25 days without alcohol and Tallinn in the future, Insh’Allah)

Anyway, I feel need to fail something new.
Maybe that’s why I’m writing :)


Here an inspirational video about failures:


And you, any failure you want to share?

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Hi, I’m Daniele! In April 2012 I quit my full-time IT job to pursue entrepreneurship and a location independent lifestyle.

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  1. Walter says:

    What alcohol in Tallinn??

    I don’t remember seeing any alcohol there… none at all! 😉

  2. el papi says:

    in your failures in bed you should include all the times the girls was simulating an orgasm just to pleasure.

  3. Dave Ho says:


    Nice story and thank you for sharing it with us. If we never want to avoid the fail-experience, you will never grow as a person. I have a few credo’s that I use in my own life.

    These are as follows:
    “‘Do something you’re not ready to do. In the worst case, you’ll learn something about your limitations.”‘
    Quote from Marissa Mayer (the Vice President of Search Product and User Experience @ the search engine company Google)

    “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”
    Quote from Confucius, Chinese Philosopher & Reformer (551 BC – 479 BC)

    “Live as if you were to die tomorrow, learn as if you were to live forever”
    Quote from Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (also known as Ghandi), was a pre-eminent political and ideological leader of India during the Indian independence movement (2 October 1869 – 30 January 1948)

    “You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore” – Christopher Columbus

    Stay grounded at all times, my good friend!!! :)
    Since you are in Poland for work this week, let’s setup a dinner appointment when I am back from my trip in Crocodile Dundee country.


  4. virginia says:

    Back in 1996, during Atlanta Olympics one of the main sponsor (whose name reminds us of “victory” and child labour exploitation in south east Asia) billboard slogan was: “you don’t win silver, you lose gold”.
    I fear it examplifies the attitude society has towards achieving a result. A silver medal is an incredible result, yet this slogan turns it into the failure of a lifetime.

    I personally have fond memories of my some of my failures, expecially the endless times I tried and failed to bake decent French meringue with my sister and my best friend. Only my dad was brave enough to eat them!

  5. ACRay says:

    I think you failed to achieve good and impotant failings.. come on, you can do better!!! 😀

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